Really the question you have to ask yourself is: Do you want to spend your life making your habits and patterns stronger? Or do you want some kind of transformation to happen? — so that your strength and your confidence and your capacity to love and to care for people can begin to surface— you’re not always blocking it.
-Pema Chodron
I love Miranda July, as a creative human, artist, etc, etc. She created the website Learning to Love You More, and the book which followed it (if you like Post Secret, you will like both, though the site is no longer accepting submissions), as well as the film Me, You, and Everyone We Know. Which is beautiful. One of the things that I remember the most of her work is also the title of her collection of short stories: No one belongs here more than you do.
I remember it when I feel an attack of complacency, or restlessness. When I feel like other people are doing a better job living their life than I am. That my life is boring. That I am not making the most of my time here. All of those times when you are reminded that you don’t actually live in a movie.

I love it. It is so simple and so good to remind yourself of. Today, Sunday, has proved to be an emotional day for many people in my life, though not for me personally. Despite my stable Sunday, I still subscribe to the idea that people move through emotional ebbs and flows together in some ways, unbeknownst to them. Something about the energy in the universe today, or this weekend I guess, resulted in many people in my life uncovering tender emotional truths, ones that are scary and uncomfortable to deal with. Ones which shake up your sense that you are chugging right along, somehow “keeping up” with how you should be doing _________ (at this point in your life/compared to other people/since x, y, or z happened). Ones which shine a light on some uncertain part of your life, and leave you exposed to yourself and the world.
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